Wednesday, October 26, 2011

I Don't Want To Multitask

While I was pregnant everyone mentioned learning to multitask, it was the only way I would get by. Multitasking isn't difficult for me; it is almost a good part of ADD, although not everything always gets finished. When I had Eliza I definitely learned how to multitask more efficiently, and usually one handed.

On a recent trip to the park I realized, I don’t want to multitask, I want to be present in the moment. As I was walking on the trails with Eliza a man walked by and said “what a good multitasker, talking on your phone, pushing a stroller, holding a bottle, taking pictures and spending time with your daughter.” He was genuinely complementing me, but it made me stop in my tracks, what was I doing? How is this quality time? Granted I was on the phone to Mark asking him to come pick us up because I had walked too far and was too tired to get back to the car (apparently this is not an important enough reason for him to leave work) that still wasn’t giving her the attention. I immediately put my phone away, took her out of the stroller and held her as she ate. I showed her all of the leaves changing, the ducks in the water, and just stayed in that moment.

As we drove home I realized how many moments I wasn’t really present for. Yes, I was there but so many other things were on my mind or in my hands that I wasn’t there for her. She does such a good job of entertaining herself that I worry I take advantage of that to get other things done. I realize she needs to learn to play alone, and not be hooked to me, but that is when I should be getting things done around the house, not updating here : )

 I don’t want her to ever feel I am not giving her the attention she wants or deserves. There is nothing in my life more important than her. She is growing up so fast, I don’t want to miss the few moments we have each day.

I made a vow to be in the moment with her. Less texting, googling, Facebook, blogging, and TV while she is up. I also want to limit myself with pictures of her. Obviously I want to take pictures to remember the moment, but I also want to remember it by being a part of it. I don’t need to get the perfect picture as I miss the perfect moment. I need to remember I can’t reason with a 9 month old by saying “just one smile and we will be done”, I need to be ok with the half smiles, stinky faces, or yawns that I get, because that was her in that moment.

Here are some photos from that day, I guess I was in the moment for some of it...

I wonder what sticks taste like


So turn off the TV, put away the cell phone, and log off this blog…just remember to come back when the little ones are asleep!


Burkulater said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Awe! What a doll! This post is so true.

My wise mother always says, "You'll never regret the time you spent with your kids, but you may regret the time you forfeited with them doing other things."

Following from Musings of a SAHM :)

Kerry said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Hi Kalyn! I found your blog through the Give a Hoot blog hop :) I am your newest follower! Eliza is absolutely adorable! I have a 9 month old son, Liam, who also loves to taste sticks and chew his toes lol
Reading this post was as if I actually wrote it! I think the same thing most days...thanks for the reminder!
Beautiful pictures...

Bethany said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Hi Kalyn- I just discovered your blog via Kelly's Korner. While I'm not a mom yet, I do work with young children and I think this post is spot-on. Well said!

Anonymous said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I loved this post! I have this conversation with myself all too often. I too easily get distracted by what needs doing that I have to remind myself of the most important thing I should be doing... Being with my son. Thanks for another reminder.