Sunday, February 12, 2012

Is It Just Me?

For years I have heard the saying "Happy Wife, Happy Life". At times I have laughed, and thought how totally right it is! If you keep me happy, you will be happy, but what does that really mean?

Someone recently said this to me, in reference to her marriage, and it really made me think. As long as you are happy then he will have a happy life? What about him? Doesn't he deserve to be happy too?

Today at Lowes I was discussing tile with the gentleman that worked there and looked up to see Mark and Eliza no where in site. I continued to talk to the man while deciding on what flooring was best. When it came down to picking it, again Mark was gone. When I found him he said "just pick whatever you want, I don't care". I totally appreciate this, especially when I have something specific in mind, but I want him to be happy too. I picked out the tile I wanted, which he liked as well, and we went on our way.

After a few hours of sitting at home we were both bored out of our minds. He decided to be wonderful and keep Eliza busy in her play room and I tackled the entry way and painted it. He wasn't thrilled with me doing this, apparently there are plenty of other projects for me to finish, but like always he said...just do whatever you want. I went and grabbed some paint we had in the basement from a different room(that I never finished) and my roller and went to town. I called him up to put Eliza to bed and take a look, he wasn't thrilled. Apparently he thought I was painting it white(I have never painted a wall white). He doesn't mind the color but doesn't like the other colors it buts up to.

I finished painting but felt terrible that he didn't like it. This is his house too and of course I want him to like it. I agree it is a bit much with colors...in one area three walls come together and are camel, green, and grey with a burnt orange down the hall. Seeing as the paint was free, and I had all the supplies, we really aren't out anything if I decide to paint over it.

But this brings me back to "happy wife, happy life". Shouldn't it be Happy Couple, Happy Life? Just because I am happy doesn't mean he is. I want us both to be happy. So that means give and take, compromise, and communication.

The wall is going to stay the color it is for now, maybe I will paint one of the other ones to calm it down, but I will do what it takes to make it a happy life for us both!

8 comments:

Full Circle Creations said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I've never liked that saying and hear it all the time (not in reference to me, I'm single) but I agree, it should be a compromise and not just one person being happy. Here from the Social Sunday..nice feature!

Holly

Randee Hallmark said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

My husband is the EXACT same way!! He NEVER complains or really has an opinion!! His answer is ALWAYS...whatever you like!! ;)
I will have to pay more attention!!

Happily following you!! Hope you will come over to my CHAOS!!

Kir Gallo said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Found you on Sunday Social!

Teresa said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Stopping by from the Sunday Social, I'll be following you!

Cori said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Found you over on Sunday Social! I am also a crafty SAHM-I hope you'll follow me back over at www.createdbycori.blogspot.com!

Jessica Kielman said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

What a great and very true post! Glad I visited. Following via Sunday Social...I have a craft blog as well...come on by for a visit!

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Kelly said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

New follower :) Found you through the Sunday Social!

Kelly
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Wives Unscripted said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

What a great post! It's 100% true. I'll start saying "happy couple, happy life." now.

Btw, found you over at the Sunday Social. Hope you'll check out our blog. I think you'll enjoy it!

Mar
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